Physical/Psychological Responses to Anger:
Immediate Calming Strategies Examples:
Later Calming Strategies Examples:
4 SAFE Skills for Communication:
Use calming strategies to feel cool and collected.
Ask honest and open questions to better understand the situation. Don't jump to conclusions. After listening to that person's answer, you may realize the conflict was all a misunderstanding.
Find Out Feelings
Find out how the other person feels about the situation that is causing the disagreement. Express your own feelings -be honest and specific, referring to the situation and what about it upsets you. Use "I" statements when expressing your feelings. Say "I feel (add feeling here) when you (add behavior you don't like) because (add reason for feeling like you do)." For example: "I feel mad when you ignore me because I fell like you don't care."
Exchange Ideas For A Possible Solution
With all of this information, suggest possible solutions. Talk about which ones work best for the two of you.
Red Flags for Unhealthy/Abusive Relationships: